Get Out of the Norm

Money is energy and an exchange for my services. How much I have depends on what I believe I deserve. My income is constantly increasing! Lois Hay

Blessings, Lenny

Why are Americans for the most part more comfortable having a full schedule then having no schedule. You often hear how busy someone is but you never hear them say yea I have nothing going on! It is interesting to me how busy has become our badge of honor and worth! I know some people that are so bad at managing time that they are running constantly. They have no time for personal relationships or friendships because they have run out of time and gas. I used to think wow they are so busy I need to get that kind of a schedule. The more I worked through my own demons I started to view this white noise and movement very differently. Of course, we like to be active and want to have a busy schedule. Of course, we all are looking to feel important and driven by some sort of passion. When busy becomes the norm on a continued basis though, we must start to question what are we running from?

Today is a good day to sit in the silence and see how that makes us feel. Are we comfortable in the nothingness? Are we willing to go deeper or are we antsy for the 5 minute buzzer to ring? A lot can be found in stillness. Give yourself those 5 minutes today and see what comes up for you. Remember, God said His voice was the still small voice. Often people tell me that God doesn’t answer prayers, but all prayers are always answered. Our ability to recieve must be open. If our internal radio is always turned on to the busy knob, we can’t hear that quiet voice.

We are in the winter and the energy of that is water and stillness. Allow yourself to go into the deep and resolve to find the yin and the yang.

Blessings, Lenny

“Dogs don’t bark at parked cars” Lynne Cheany

I have come to realize that women have so much more in common then not. I believe once we get married we go through similar events that lead us to ourselves.

First we marry, and put the man first. I don’t care how much of a feminist you are, you did it too! Then, we have our kids. Whether we stay home or work, we cater to them endlessly. In my particular generation, we did it too much. Most are spoiled and it doesn’t matter whether one is wealthy or not. We were the first generation to hear our children too much where our parents were still just seeing us! Our parents had it wrong but we haven’t gotten it right either. Hopefully, our kids will get a better balance.

When the children come, the man is still a top dog. This is because all men, ok there are a few exceptions, want to be taken care of. Peter Pan is the correct paradigm for the male and if you are looking for anything other then that you are fooling yourself. Men like to be taken care of!

A change starts to happen when we go through the change! As the children age and are leaving home, we no longer have the desire to care take as we did before. Our men have no idea that the nurture, although may still be there to a point, has left the building! Once there is no child to mother, we just don’t have the interest in it we used to. All of the sudden we are like do your own laundry!

We all came into our adult hood with baggage, demons and family issues. Most of us went into our new communities and worked these relationships out. If we are aware, we started at some point to analyze our dynamics. The more thorough we were, the more self actualized we become.

Now at 47, I am finally myself. I no longer care if Betty or Sukie include me. I no longer care about the slights real or imagined. I no longer care about fitting in. Even though I was always more of a rebel and outside the box, I was not any less effected by the need for peer acceptance.

Instead of thinking we are so different, I think we should start understanding the evolution of woman. Although we all have a different story, it sounds quite similar. This has been my epiphany. Maybe we can all start being more inclusive with one another. As we can see, we all have the same insecurities and issues. Why not embrace one another instead of casting some outside? Maybe this will be the year of the woman because without each other we would surely perish!

Blessings, Lenny