Get Out of the Norm

I have a lot swirling in my head lately. Not sure if the thoughts are congruent but it has and is a time of reflection. I feel like most of my life has been a reflection. I think we have become so lost in this society especially around our ideas of success and achievement. It seems that money and self care is our top priority as we see the family, relationship and the need for depth and bonding slipping away. Most people are in a hurry, at least where I live or they are in cliques because they think that will fill the void. The cliques are closed and I am talking about women in their 30’s and 40’s! I thought cliques were outdated after high school but I have been sadly mistaken. We have become so afraid of getting out of our comfort zones or opening ourselves to experience beyond the thick.

It is curious how we are suppose to kick the kids out of the nest at 18 and expect them to never come back. I live right outside two major cities where the cost of living is astronomical. If they were to reside here, they would surely need some help after college. There was a time when several generations of a family lived together. Often times, the grandparents died at home. Now we are soo freaked out about dying if you don’t take the elderly to the hospital every time they have a cough you could be subject to governmental interference. We have lost what it means to live with one another. We are too focused on me and special group interests. In order to survive in this free society we have to be concerned with good of the whole. America was found on differences both in race and opinions.

Busy is the mantra of today. You actually hear people talking about how busy they are as if it is a badge of honor. Well, we are soo busy we are losing the fundamental idea of relationship and kindness to our brother. Ask yourself what is the definition of success for you? Is it how much money you have in the bank, your special friendships you have created, or how busy you are? I think we need to start scaling back and understanding what we are losing in the rush. Life is to be lived in the moment not after we have made a million dollars. I don’t where we are headed. With all our technology and education it sure seems like we haven’t gotten very far. Maybe we are looking in the wrong place for the answers?

Blessings, Lenny

It seems there is a certain hysteria around the issue of menopause. As a child, I don’t ever remember hearing about it. Perhaps our mothers suffered in silence but I think we could learn a thing or two from them.

Menopause is not an illness or a disease. I see it as a rites of passage in a women’s life. Although some of the physical symptoms can be scary and a nuisance, to me, they are a very small part of the overall changes we experience as women. During this time, it seems women lose some of their need to nurture, become empowered and care much less what others think. I think men also go through the change but we call it a mid-life crisis. We don’t see all the fear and upset around the male population. Men go get a sports car, get hair plugs and maybe upgrade their golf clubs. Although women do experience greater physical symptoms and emotional changes, or is it that we are just more aware?, we all go through this change of life.

I think it is better to embrace it instead of running scared. Obviously if your symptoms are too great, they need to be addressed. There are several ways to do that and mostly it is our mind set that improves our experience.

Dealing with empty nest syndrom, what to do now that the kids are leaving and examining my Truth have been more of an edge for me then the hot flashes and sleepless nights. Also, I think we need to find doctors or alternative sources in the female gender. How on earth can a man really understand what we are going through? I find it odd that any of us would go to a man to find the answers to this change.

Let’s rethink our investment in menopause. It is what we make it. Fear it or embrace it most likely if you are a women you will experience it sooner or later. If we believe we can steer its pattern, we are ahead of the curve. We want to balance the yin and yang and we can do that. Remember to eat healthy, get enough rest, spend every day in some type of prayer or meditation, have fun don’t forget to laugh, spend some time with your girlfriends or sisters, enjoy what you are doing and lessen your stress. Whether we are in the change of life or not those are all good points to live by. Know you are coming into a new era for yourself and enjoy the shedding of your old skin.

Blessings, Lenny

For today, practice being in the moment. Don’t look at your watch, don’t rush, don’t measure your time. Just be where you are and be fine with it. Today, we will just BE.

Blessings, Lenny

Women need to become empowered through the gifts they pocess. We have lost our points of power because we continue to compete with men on their playing field. Although feminism did understand the need for equality in the work place, it misunderstood how to achieve and balance out the yin and yang.

It is undoubted that both men and women should be treated equally in the work place. This is not what I am talking about. I am talking about the true nature of women and that differs greatly from men. Being fat or thin is not the answer. It is sad to see this is our point of power. Are we really that shallow and lost? I am afraid I have to say yes to the lost part but most women are anything but shallow. They have just been brainwashed into thinking they are by male driven industries.

If we will stop and think, we notice that women are targeted mostly in more then one venue. Women are told over and over their worth is found in what they look like and how thin or fat they are. Men are never told this. Women are told they are menopausal and need hormones. These very hormones have created havoc and cancer in many of their subjects. Men go through menopause but we never hear about it. We hear they have a mid-life crisis. They are not targeted for drugs it is just a part of their legacy. Women are not allowed to be full figured in this society and like themselves but men can bulge and bald in middle age and it is OK. Feminisim has not really placed an imprint on this society and that is because we are still competeing in a patriarchial thought system. We have to change it from the inside out.

As a group, we need to collect. We need to get rid of the cliques and the back biting. At one time in this country, there were close knit communities of women. This is where women got their sustenance! Women have a great need for connection and intimacy which most men don’t require. As we have lost that community, we have lost a part of ourselves.

It is time for women to start a new path that enables our points of power to increase. We need each other and some how we have forgotten that. We also need to say no to all the white noise created by a male dominated thinking tank. Men don’t understand women, women understand women! We need to take a hands on approach and say what our value is. Our value is not in a body image! As we continue to say yes to this myopic view of our worth and value, we continue to diminish our power. We need to say no to this thought system and create a new one.

Blessings, Lenny